Your core value is giving you a new spiritual identity. It doesn’t mean that you will change your religious affiliation, but rather get in touch with your authentic self, knowing who you truly are. Come to think of it, you didn’t choose your birth identity, you just accepted it. Searching for your truth will give you a chance to reflect on your spiritual identity eliminate the untruth from your life.
“He who seeks finds.”
Before you start to understand the mystery of your life, let me first explain the full definition of Core Value. Here are five categories that give it a true meaning. Your core value has to have these five elements:
First, the core value is a value that you strongly believe in, not because you think it is nice to believe in it, but because your life experience taught you a lesson of some sort that highlights the relevance to the core value in your life. In other words, the core value is relevant to you life. You can’t believe in something that isn’t relevant to you. For example, I believe in a second chance for students, since I was the kind of student that needs this chance.
The second is similar to the first one, the core value is attached to your pain experience. You might have more than one pain experience in your life, and each pain teaches you an important lesson. As a result of reviewing your pain, ask yourself what was the most painful experience you ever had, and what is the lesson that you learned from it. Your core value linked to it. For me, the pain of separation from my own family and the separation of the two people in my birth land in Israel only highlights the important of unity that I have been craving.
The third category is the level of commitment to your core value.
If it is important to you have to stand for it whole heartily and willing to fight for it, just like Malala Yosefi that hurt by a gun shot with yet she stood with courage to protect her right to go to school before she becomes an international hero. She didn’t do it to become a hero but truly to have a fair chance to be an educated woman, because she recognized that education is power. If you strongly believe in something in spite of the fact that other would not support you or if they don’t think the way you do, you are fully committed to it. Your level of commitment to the higher ideal is beyond your physical existence, it beyond your personal needs. Your core value has been giving you a strong sense of purpose.
The fourth category is your reaction if you feel that something is missing from your surroundings. If you don’t have it in your surrounding or you witness someone violating it violate it and you can’t keep quiet, it is a validation of your core value. You personally feel responsible for doing something to restore the essence of your core value in your living soundings to fix what was broken. Think about Gandhi that can’t live without human right in Africa; Think about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. that can’t live without the equal rights for people of colors. Even I felt the sense of lack in my own country when I was not allowed to interact with non-Jews, or asking questions about other people because of the fear of assimilation. I only discovered this lack when I went to Israel on my first visit after having different experiences in the United States. My awareness of weakness of my surroundings made me an advocate of unity wherever I go and whatever I do. It is part of my natural behavior and it helps me making different choices about my life.
The fifth category of core value as if it’s continues to challenge your experience in spite of the fact that you are taking actions to align your life with it every day in your life. Your core value always being challenged in situations that link you to an old tradition, or when you are surrounded with people you love in spite of the fact that they don’t think the same way. Until today I experience challenges about celebrating certain holidays to be with my own family, honoring some traditions that I don’t want to be part of it and making family decisions revolve on a logical reason vs. religious one.
Just because you know your core value and you make a different decision to change your life, does not mean that you live challenges free life for the rest of your life. However, the awareness and attention you had about your core value will keep you grounded and guide your directions. Once you accept your truth, other people will learn to respect and accept it and you most likely don’t have to compromise your truth to accommodate them. Therefore, it will eliminate struggle to lose yourself.
When you finally discover the truth about yourself, you will make a different choice to align your life with it from this point on.